2Houses https://www.2houses.com/en OUTILS D’AIDE À LA COMMUNICATION ET À L’ORGANISATION FAMILIALE Mon, 19 Jun 2017 21:38:27 +0000 en-US hourly 1 20 Useful Tips for Single Parents Traveling with Young Children https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/20-useful-tips-for-single-parents-traveling-with-young-children/ https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/20-useful-tips-for-single-parents-traveling-with-young-children/#respond Mon, 11 Jul 2016 09:27:18 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/en/?p=4647 Any parent knows that traveling with young children isn’t the easiest of the things. At times, it can be outright...

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Any parent knows that traveling with young children isn’t the easiest of the things. At times, it can be outright challenging, especially if you’re a single parent. But most parents are known to be resourceful which is why we know they would love any tip or suggestion that would make traveling with children easier and much more fun!

Here, BookSinglesHolidays.com is sharing a set of tips and tricks for all single parents who wish to make the most of globe-trotting with their children!

Don’t Forget the Medicine at Home!

Don’t Forget the Medicine at Home!
This is very important and something a lot of parents overlook. Do not forget medicine at home, whatever you do! Bring medicine for pain, upset tummies, fevers, allergies, and anything else (prescription or not) that your child might require, but make sure that it’s medicine you can travel with. A feverish child is something nobody wants!

Book Transportation in Advance

When leaving on vacation with your child, it is important to think ahead of all the steps needed to be taken from the time you take your first step out your front door, until you put your bags down in your hotel room. Which is why transportation is so important. Don’t just rely on the fact that you will find a taxi when you get off the airplane! Because if you don’t, then you’ll be stuck with a tired child outside an airport and that has got to be a horrible situation to find yourself in. Call ahead, reserve a car, ask around; whatever you do, make sure there’s a car waiting for you when you guys land.

Board Early

Board Early
We know it can be hard to leave the house early when going on vacation with a small child, but if you do make out the door early, you’ll have only benefits to reap. Some airlines will allow parents with children to board just after the first class passengers, so if you make it early, you’re in luck. Boarding early will also release tension and stress, and you and your child will be able to relax on the journey.

Mind the Toys

No matter where you go and for how long you’re staying, you need to bring some toys! Now, it is advisable that you always travel light, so make sure you scale it down when it comes to toys. Hopefully, that can be done without tears being shed, if not, there are so many great travel toys out there that your little one can enjoy.

Avoid Sugar on the Road

Avoid Sugar on the Road
Try as much as possible to avoid giving your child sugar before going on a trip. The last thing you want is for your child to have all the energy in the world kick in when you’re taking off. If they do want something sweet, fruit is always a nice choice, or home made granola. Make the treats small and make sure they eat real food before they have their treats.

Don’t Be Afraid of Your Stroller

Some parents can be so apologetic of the stroller. Some avoid it altogether because it’s too heavy or too hard to carry around on vacations, but we advise against that. A stroller can be a huge help, especially on vacations and in airports, when you have to do a lot of walking. You also need to know that strollers don’t count hand luggage.

Do a Little Training Before You Leave

Do a Little Training Before You Leave
If your child is old enough to remember tasks, then it is wise to do a little training with them before you leave on your vacation. Explain to them what to expect and what is expected from them. Make it short, because we all know kids aren’t too good at paying attention for long periods of time.

Invest in a Child Tracker

The thought that you might lose your child is enough to make any parent break out in a cold sweat, which is why we highly recommend that when you’re on vacation, you get a child tracker for them. Here is a list of some of the most popular child trackers. There are trackers that can be worn as a bracelet, be attached on clothes, just pick the one you think is best for your kid!

Do Your Check In Online

Do Your Check In Online
Online check in has improved airports so much! You can now avoid massive lines by simply checking in online a day in advance from the comfort of your home. I mean, how amazing is that?! If you’re not doing it, we urge you to start checking in online and you’ll see how wonderful it feels to simply breeze through the airport in no time!

Flight Attendants are Your Friends

Flight attendants are there to help you and you! As a single parent traveling with a small child, you should take advantage of that as much as you can. We’re not saying that you should pester them with non-stop requests, but you shouldn’t feel guilty every time you need them for something. Let’s say you need to use the bathroom and you can’t take your child with you. Instead of asking the person sitting next to you to keep an eye out on them, ask one of the flight attendants. They’d be more than happy to help!

Avoid the Back of the Plane

Avoid the Back of the Plane
If you can choose your seats on an airplane, then we recommend you stay away from the back of the plane. It is undoubtedly the loudest spot in the whole airplane. It’s where there is always a line for the lavatory, where the flight attendants are chatting and getting the serving trays ready and where pretty much all the action happens. A child will surely get distracted by all the commotion and that is something nobody on the plane wants.

Research, Research, Research

Researching a hotel is one of the best things a traveler can do before booking a vacation. And this is valid for any traveler, especially for single parents traveling with their children, where so much more things can go wrong. You need to know if a hotel offers babysitting, or if they have a playpen or a laundry service. Everything you need to have a great vacation! Websites such as Hotels or TripAdvisor are awesome for finding out this type of information.

Noise Cancelling Headphones

Noise Cancelling Headphones
A pair of good noise cancelling headphones can really make a difference when traveling with a young child. In airports or anywhere there are loud announcements, on the road or in city centers, your small child needs to be shielded from loud noises. Or use them when your child is napping in an airplane or train and you don’t want them to be easily startled. Just make sure that you choose a pair that fits, if there’s one teeny tiny spot that doesn’t around your child’s ear, then everything is in vain!

Announce in Advance You Have Kids

Another great tip that will surely make a huge difference in your stay at any hotel is to announce in advance that you have kids. This way, you get all the information about what that particular hotel can offer and you’ll be able to schedule accordingly. These days, many hotels offer great kids programs that can give you some much needed time off, so make sure you let them know about it!

Create a Routine

Create a Routine
Parents know very well that children thrive on routine, so we highly suggest that you create one for your child while on vacation. It may seem counterproductive to fun, but it’s really not. If your child learns on the first few days how things are going to be, they’ll start relaxing and be more manageable, which will only make your life easier!

Early to Bed, Early to Rise

When on vacation with a small child, it is very important that they go to bed early, for their sake for also for yours. They will be tired and there’s no point mentioning how tired children behave. Besides, if they go to bed early, you get a little time to yourself, to unwind, relax and plan out the schedule for your next day.

Stay As Close to the City Attractions as Possible

Stay As Close to the City Attractions as Possible
When booking a hotel, do your best to choose a hotel that is as close as possible to the city attractions. Even though these hotels tend to be a bit pricier, you will save money on transportation and your child will be a tiny bit happier, because they won’t be forced to walk or be transported too much. Also, you save a lot of time and you can be in and out of things such as museums, in no time!

Expect the Best, Plan for the Worst, and Prepare to be Surprised

Alright, so your vacation probably won’t really be the worst, but you do need to plan accordingly. Just make sure that a few days before you leave, you make a list of things that could go wrong and think how you can counteract that. For example, in case you lose an item that is really important, then make sure you pack a spare one. Trips with small children tend to be filled with surprises, so just make sure you do your best to foresee them, as much as you can.

Relax!

Relax!
Alright, now that you’ve planned for the worst and you’re prepared to be surprised, how about you relax? Anxiety is your worst nightmare when leaving on a vacation with your small one, because it produces nothing helpful, just horrible thoughts of things that can go wrong, worrying and stress. We know it’s hard to relax, especially when planning for a vacation when you’re a single parent, which is why we suggest you look into meditation. If you’re already familiar with it, why not go on a meditation retreat?

Go on Single Parent and Kids Retreats

Going on retreats that are aimed at single parents with kids is a great way to unwind and also bond with your child. The absolute best thing about single parent and kids vacations is the support system you will discover there. Meeting single parents will undoubtedly open up your eyes to a whole new world and make you feel like you’re not alone in this, even though, at times, it might seem so. You get to see new and exciting locations, meet like-minded people, bond with your child, relax, have fun and also learn new things. What can be more appealing than that?
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About

Cristina Costea

Cristina is the Community Manager of BookSinglesHolidays.com, a themed travel website offering a vast collection of singles vacations & solo holidays. She is also a passionate traveler, cat aficionado and novice writer.

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Children and lies: how to react? https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/children-and-lies-how-to-react/ Thu, 25 Feb 2016 22:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1483 It's not unusual for a child to lie on occasion. This isn't saying the behavior is right, but it is an indication that it isn't always a serious concern. How you react to the situation may depend on several factors. For instance, age and the number of times it has happened both play a role.

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It’s not unusual for a child to lie on occasion. This isn’t saying the behavior is right, but it is an indication that it isn’t always a serious concern. How you react to the situation may depend on several factors. For instance, age and the number of times it has happened both play a role.

Age Is an Important Number

First and foremost, whoever said age isn’t nothing but a number wasn’t referring to lying. Children who make up stories when they’re under the age of six are just being imaginative and are having fun making up a story. The lies aren’t meant to hurt anyone and aren’t usually anything to worry about. They don’t understand the difference between reality and fiction just yet. You will want to discuss the difference between the truth and a lie with them.

A child may lie for various reasons. Much of the lying is self serving to avoid punishment or having to do something. At this age, it’s time to sit your child down and have a discussion on the importance of being truthful and how lies can hurt other people. When you discuss how lying is a bad behavior, you never want to tell your child she is bad for lying. If the child thinks she’s bad, it can lead to more lying to cover up bad behaviors.

A child between the ages of 6 and 12 may lie just to get out of trouble such as making up an excuse as to why she is late coming home. Make sure you know for sure she’s lying. If you accuse and you’re wrong, you’ll be the one to look foolish and you’ll harm the trust you two have. The best punishment for this age bracket is either taking something away such as TV or video games, or grounding.

The ages from 13 to 18 get a bit rough because your child is really striving to gain independence. The lies are oftentimes a way to cover up partying or just wanting freedom. Make sure you know the child is lying first and foremost. Then let your teen know you know what the real truth is. Give them an opportunity to explain her case. Then you should take away her cell phone, driving privileges or etc to let her know that type of behavior is unacceptable. You want to make it clear that you’re doing this because you need to know where she is for her safety, or why you’re punishing her for whatever she did wrong.

Frequency and Punishment

Your child telling lies can become a frequent event if she is stressed and trying to juggle the demands of her home, school and social life. You should make her aware that you know she’s lying and see if that stops the problem.  Make sure you let her know you’re there to help her through whatever she’s going through, so she doesn’t have to lie. If it doesn’t stop the problem, you’ll need to find an appropriate punishment such as a grounding.

When There’s a Problem

In some cases, your tot’s lying may be indicative of a more serious problem. If your child is telling lies and seems unphased by them or doesn’t care about how they affect others, you may need to seek evaluation by a professional to discover the underlying cause of the lying. Lie that are meant to hurt others or cause problem is also a sign of a more serious problem.

When you live in two separate houses, how you react needs to be consistent in both households. For example, if you one parent is letting it go and the other is correcting it, it will send mix signals to your kid. The apps 2houses.com can help you to balance a child’s life when she has parents who aren’t together anymore in terms of punishment and other aspects. In fact, their apps can assist in getting your child to stop lying about school, partying, where they were and whatever other lies they concoct.

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Married life on social network https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/married-life-on-social-network/ Thu, 04 Feb 2016 22:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1471 Keeping a marriage alive and well has always been an ongoing challenge for couples. In the good old days, the “mother-in-law” was always blamed for interfering with the marriage.

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Keeping a marriage alive and well has always been an ongoing challenge for couples. In the good old days, the “mother-in-law” was always blamed for interfering with the marriage. But today, social networking is the hurdle putting marriages to the test. According to Divorce-Online, a British legal service, more than a third of divorces implicate Facebook. And, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers reports that more than 80% of the divorce attorneys in the U.S. see an increase in divorce actions involving social networking. So, with social media becoming a universal form of communication, what can you and your spouse do to protect your relationship?

Don’t Post Anything You May Regret

It’s very tempting in the heat of a marital spat to want to vent. Before the internet, you would confide in your best friend over a cup of coffee. No big deal if you said some things you regret – it was just one person after all. But social media is real time and it’s not just one person you are sharing with … it’s the world. While you may be looking for an appreciative audience to validate your grievances, friends and family don’t want to be put in the middle – and it’s likely to back fire on you.

A good example of sharing too much information is a woman who posted complaints about her spouse every day on Facebook. At first, her friends thought she was just prone to drama or she and her spouse might be going through a rough patch. But as time went on, the posts became more toxic and her friends became more uncomfortable. One by one, they started to defriend her, and ultimately the couple divorced.

Regardless of the nature of your marital problems, sharing these matters on social networks leads to feelings of betrayal and lack of trust. And, hurtful posts can reduce your chances of working out problems.

Think About the Kids

If negative postings make adults uncomfortable, just think how they affect children who may have access to their Mom or Dad’s Facebook page? It can be very embarrassing for children, force them to choose sides and foster feeling of insecurity. Kids should never be a part of your marital fights … on line or off.

Set Clear Social Media Boundaries

Just as you monitor your children’s use of social media, you and your spouse need to set rules for yourselves. Nothing should be shared with the outside world unless you’re both in agreement … even good positive moments. Not everyone wants the intimate details of their lives out on the web, or pictures posted that they feel uncomfortable with others seeing.

Be cautious and considerate about whom you befriend. How secure do either of you feel with befriending people from past relationships? Refrain from posting comments to others that could be misconstrued as suggestive or flirting. And, come to an agreement on time spent networking before it becomes an issue.

By sharing your Facebook passwords with each other, you can build trust and help keep yourselves within your agreed boundaries. Remember that openness and honesty helps build the foundation for a good marriage. And, if you cannot post something nice … don’t post anything at all!

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What are the 5 best places in the world to go on vacation alone with my ​​children https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/what-are-the-5-best-places-in-the-world-to-go-on-vacation-alone-with-my-children/ Sun, 24 Jan 2016 22:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1486 Summer vacations can be difficult if you are newly separated. Your children may not want to go far away, especially if their other parent still lives in the same town, and you may not be able to provide the same type of vacation experience that they had when you and your co-parent went on vacation with them as a family. If you choose places that cater specifically to single or separated parents, you and your kids can still have a good time and take all of your minds off of the change in your family situation.

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Summer vacations can be difficult if you are newly separated. Your children may not want to go far away, especially if their other parent still lives in the same town, and you may not be able to provide the same type of vacation experience that they had when you and your co-parent went on vacation with them as a family. If you choose places that cater specifically to single or separated parents, you and your kids can still have a good time and take all of your minds off of the change in your family situation.

Before You Leave

Before choosing a destination for travel, you may need to do a couple of things in order to ensure a safe, stress-free and fun experience.

  • Tell your co-parent when and where you are traveling in order to eliminate confusion and anxiety. Make sure he or she knows where you and the kids will be so that it doesn’t look like you are trying to keep the kids from him or her.
  • Get a notarized letter of consent from your co-parent if you are planning on traveling abroad.
  • Take pictures of your kids so that if they get lost while you are traveling you can quickly alert authorities.

Consider Single Parent Travel Packages

Expense can sometimes be a problem for single parents. More and more destinations, however, are realizing there’s a need for separated parents to take their children on vacation and are offering travel packages that are designed for them. These travel packages generally include lower prices, activities for kids and appropriate accommodations.

Places to Go

There are several places to go that might be of interest to single parents and their children:

  • Small Group Tours of the United Kingdom – There are several tours that allow parents and children to spend time together while sightseeing and throughout the United Kingdom. Tours usually include sightseeing stops and hotel accommodations for two to three nights. The small group atmosphere makes it easier for both parents and their children to make friends.
  • Christchurch, New Zealand – Christchurch has plenty of family-friendly attractions, such as the Orana Wildlife Park, the Botanic Gardens and even an indoor playground where parents can purchase a cappuccino to drink while watching their children climb, bounce and run. The playground also features a babysitting service for single moms and dads who want to do some sightseeing or shopping on their own.
  • The Caribbean – Several beaches in the Caribbean offer single parent packages. Beach trips may include water parks, accommodations with ocean views and time in the sun and sand.
  • South America – South American countries such as Guatemala offer parents and children exposure to ancient and modern cultures that are different from their own, exotic food, local events and marketplaces where children can meet local craftsmen and artisans.

 

  • Cruises around the coasts of various countries – Cruise ships are often a great opportunity for a single parent holiday. Family-friendly cruises offer accommodations for parents and children, activities both can enjoy and views of various countries from the ocean. Some cruises offer the ability to take day trips to the countries being visited.

 

For more advise for single and newly-separated parents, please visit our site www.2houses.com

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2houses – pricing update https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/2houses-pricing-update/ https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/2houses-pricing-update/#respond Wed, 20 Jan 2016 14:00:05 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=4293 Does 2houses facilitate your family’s communication? Does 2houses improve your daily living as a separated parent? 2houses is a well-loved and essential tool. That’s...

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Does 2houses facilitate your family’s communication?
Does 2houses improve your daily living as a separated parent?

2houses is a well-loved and essential tool. That’s hard to deny with more than 60,000 families registered in 120 countries, to the delight of 95,000 children.

To ensure the viability of this service, access to 2houses is now a paid service.

Discover the different rates that allow the whole family to continue sharing expenses, exchanging relevant information, and above all, in one click, be aware of your custody arrangements and your children’s activities.

For only pennies a day, be stress-free and get an ad-free service.

Help us continue this great adventure!

Why have we become a paid service?

When a service is online, we often minimize all the work and resources deployed, so that everything works and you can use the tools at your leisure.
However, I’m sure you aren’t surprised when I tell you that all this development is, unfortunately, not free …
Our 2houses team is committed to finding new ways to make your life more pleasant.

image equipe crop1How much does it cost?

Find the price plan that suits you here: https://tools.2houses.com/settings/subscription

How can I pay?

By credit card here: https://tools.2houses.com/settings/subscription

Do both parents have to pay?

No. A combined single payment is all that is needed. This gives full access to all family members: 2 parents, children, third parties, and mediators. Payment only needs to be made by one of the parents and it can eventually be shared in the “Finance” section of your 2houses account.

I was a user before the paid plans were introduced. How can I take advantage of my free year?

Go to the “Subscription” section of your 2houses account, select the “Two years” special deal, and enjoy a 2-year access for the price of one!

For how long can I take advantage of this “Two years” special deal?

2houses will be a paid service on the 1st of February 2016 , but the special “2 years for the price of one” deal is valid until 11:59 p.m. on January 21, 2016.

I do not want to subscribe. What should I do?

You don’t need to do anything. Access to your 2houses account will be suspended until you subscribe to a plan. Your data are saved until you do not decide to delete them. You can, if you want, export your data by clicking on “Export my data”.

So, if you later decide to reactivate your access, you will be able to recover your data.

Haven’t found the answer to your question? Do not worry; we are always here to help!

 

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How to invite the co-parent to join your 2houses account https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/how-to-invite-the-coparent-to-join-the-2houses-account/ Thu, 22 May 2014 22:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1459 You've just created an account on 2houses to share information about your child. Learn how to invite the other parent to join the account in order to effectively manage it! (You can use the account alone, but some features such as expenses and change requests will not be usable.)

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You’ve just created an account on 2houses to share information about your child. Learn how to invite the other parent to join the account in order to effectively manage it! (You can use the account alone, but some features such as expenses and change requests will not be usable.)

Here are the steps:

1) First, click on the  parameter icon in the top right corner, below your profile picture. Please select “Family”.

 

 

2) In the “My co-parent” section, click on the arrow next to the name of the co-parent and select “Invite”.

 

 

3) Enter the co-parent’s email address and click on “Invite”. The co-parent will receive an invitation email containing a link which must be clicked on to confirm his account.

 

 

4) Once the invitation is sent, information on the date and time of the invitation remains displayed until the co-parent accepts the invite. It is possible to resend the invitation as many times as you want, as long as the co-parent has accepted the invitation, by clicking “Resend Invitation email”. This is also where you can change the email address of the co-parent (in case of error and if the co-parent has not accepted).

 

 

Now you just  have to wait for the co-parent to confirm!

 

 

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How to add your first custody schedule (1 weekend on 2) https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/how-to-add-your-first-custody-schedule-1-weekend-on-2/ Thu, 22 May 2014 22:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1462 Parenting schedules is one of 2houses's hottest functions! Whether you have alternate custody or shared custody, a weekend at the mother's and then at the father's, a week, two or three. Whatever it is, it is you who makes the plans, and 2houses can help you from the beginning to the end.

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Parenting schedules is one of 2houses’s hottest functions! Whether you have alternate custody or shared custody, a weekend at the mother’s and then at the father’s, a week, two or three. Whatever it is, it is you who makes the plans, and 2houses can help you from the beginning to the end.

To create your first custody schedule, just follow these steps:

1) First, click on “Calendar” on the upper menu, then “Parenting schedules“. Finally, click on “Define the standard parenting schedule“.

 

 

2) Now click on the first day of the week, and click on which parent the children will spend the night at. Do the same for the following days. Add a week by clicking on “Add a week” to define the second week of the alternate custody. Choose a start date and select a date after “Repeats until…“. If your custody is defined for more than two weeks, click on “Add a week” and configure your custody. When all information is completed, click on “Continue”.

 

 

 3) The system shows a list of the exchange times, when your children change from you to the other parent and vice versa. You can choose (or not) a place and time for the exchanges. If you haven’t defined any time and place, leave the box “There is no specified place and time” checked. If it’s not the case, uncheck the box and enter a place and a time for the exchanges you want. Once you’ve added places and times click, “Save this planning” at the bottom of the page.

 

 

4)  Your schedule is now displayed in the “Parenting schedules” list. You can delete it or edit it by clicking on the arrow to the right.

 

 

The schedule is now displayed in your calendar (according to the color the users of the account have chosen).

 

 

 

 

 

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I’m afraid to make mom or dad sad if… https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/im-afraid-to-make-mom-or-dad-sad-if-dot-dot-dot/ Tue, 13 May 2014 22:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1438 The most crucial component of successful co-parenting and child happiness is communication. Both parents must communicate amicably and effectively with each other. They must also facilitate positive communication between the child and parents, as well as the child and siblings.

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The most crucial component of successful co-parenting and child happiness is communication. Both parents must communicate amicably and effectively with each other. They must also facilitate positive communication between the child and parents, as well as the child and siblings.

Communication

Children often blame themselves for the end of their parents’ relationship as a way of understanding a confusing and scary change in life. It is important to communicate to your child that they are in no way responsible for what is happening. By stressing this message, you can help your child avoid developing anxiety or resentment over what they perceive to be the loss of a parent.

Getting used to having separated parents who live in different places can be confusing to the children and lead to the idea that he or she must choose between mom and dad. Use these tips to help your child deal with the feelings of “choosing” a parent:

  • Let your child know that they never have to choose between mom and dad
  • At the same time, let them know it’s okay to want to spend time each parent
  • Make it clear that you want them to spend time with their other parent
  • Have an open channel of communication so your child isn’t afraid to tell you if he or she wants to spend time with the other parent

Children are often reluctant to communicate openly during a divorce or separation because they are afraid their parents will be sad if they don’t take mom or dad’s side. Questions like “Will mom be sad if I want to spend the weekend at dad’s house?” or “Will dad be mad if mom takes me shopping for school clothes?” are common for children of divorced parents. By encouraging open communication, reassuring the child that he or she is not to blame, and stressing that neither parent will be hurt or sad by the child’s requests, you can help your child navigate this confusing time.

Organization

Along with communication, organization is essential to avoid many common issues encountered with kids of divorce. By keeping an organized handle on your child’s life, coparenting can be a rewarding partnership, rather than a source of conflict. Simple acts like calling the other parent if you are running late or have a change of plans can keep everyone happy and avoid conflict and resentment.

Organizational tools, like the 2houses website or mobile app, allow you and your co-parent to have a shared source of information pertaining to your child including a calendar, journal, photo album, finance notes, messages, and an info bank. By using this app, which lets you instantly share information synched to your phones, many of the hassles of coordinating drop offs and pick ups, finance issues, and relaying information of your child, can all be done with a few simple clicks.

By focusing on positive communication and effective organization, divorce doesn’t have to be the end of a family, but can instead facilitate a loving co-parented family bound by respect, joy and, happiness.

 

 

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The place of my new partner in the education of my child https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/the-place-of-my-new-partner-in-the-education-of-my-child/ Thu, 24 Apr 2014 22:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1420 Your child’s success and security in life depends upon a good education. So, it is understandable as a parent, you feel responsible and protective for that part of your child’s upbringing.

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Your child’s success and security in life depends upon a good education. So, it is understandable as a parent, you feel responsible and protective for that part of your child’s upbringing.

But, now with a new spouse in the picture, parenting decisions become more complicated. If your spouse seems to be forcing his or her authority in an area where you would prefer to have the first and final word, it could be that they just don’t know what their appropriate role should be.

However, keep in mind, as a stepparent, he or she does have the best of intentions for your child, and these new blended family disputes can be resolved?

Communication with a Capital “C”

The best way to set a solid foundation for your new family and head off conflict is … Communication. If education is the issue that is bothering you, sit down with your spouse and have an open and honest discussion.

If you are able to listen and hear each others point of view – listen is a key word here – you may find that you actually have a lot of the same views on education. Perhaps what you are in disagreement about is who should take charge of educational issues, and who should be the ally and supporter.

Define Your Spouse’s Role

Tell your spouse that you do value his or her ideas, but you want to be in charge of your child’s education. Suggest your spouse’s role be one of guidance and support rather than decision making and authority.

Stepparents who are involved, interested and supportive can do so much more for the family dynamic than trying to take control. Power struggles create a stressful environment that is not healthy for children. In addition, the friction will interfere with your spouse’s attempts to develop a positive relationship with your child. A helpful, upbeat environment at home encourages learning.

Learning Opportunities with a Stepparent

Education is more than school, homework, or good grades. Your child’s learning can be enriched by a stepparent who is willing to spend time and share learning opportunities beyond school.
Shared learning opportunities can be as simple as reading a book or working on a home improvement project together.

If your spouse is an outdoors enthusiast, a walk in the woods, exploring and discussing the trees and vegetation is loved by most children. Giving your child lessons in the game of tennis or golf can be a bonding opportunity while learning something new at the same time. Maybe your new spouse has an interest in art or music that he can share with your child. A trip to the local science museum or zoo is always fun for children, and they learn too

These types of pastimes will encourage your new spouse to be a part of your child’s life. And, sharing time together with fun positive activities can cement the relationship between stepparent and child and create a lifetime of memories..

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How to reconcile professional and private life when we are separated? https://www.2houses.com/en/blog/how-to-reconcile-professional-and-private-life-when-we-are-separated/ Tue, 11 Mar 2014 23:00:00 +0000 https://www.2houses.com/?p=1399 After a divorce, you have to try to regain a normal life. This includes getting your personal life and your professional life back together. Despite anything you may be going through, you can't let your work and home life suffer. In particular, you need to focus on keeping your children's lives as stable as possible. This might seem a bit overwhelming, but with a few tips and the right tools, you can reconcile your professional and private life even when you're separated.

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After a divorce, you have to try to regain a normal life. This includes getting your personal life and your professional life back together. Despite anything you may be going through, you can’t let your work and home life suffer. In particular, you need to focus on keeping your children’s lives as stable as possible. This might seem a bit overwhelming, but with a few tips and the right tools, you can reconcile your professional and private life even when you’re separated.

Private Life

Your private life describes anything having to do with your family such as your children, your ex partner, your friends, your home and etc. It’s easy to let your personal life get away from you a bit during your split up. To keep on the right track, make sure you continue to schedule time to be with your friends. A lady’s or man’s night out might be just what you need to get back into the groove of socializing. Plus, it’s an excellent way to keep your mind off occupied. Make sure you call up your friends still on a regular basis, so you don’t lose touch with them while you’re focusing on your life. Don’t forget about your family either. They can make this process easier on you. Find a family friendly activities for you and the kids to do, which will be good for both of you. Your kids will enjoy a little bit extra of your time.

Professional Life

Your professional life includes every aspect of your job from the actual work part to the lunches you take. A separation may lead to you not performing on the job as well as you did before the breakup. You may not feel the urge to go out with co-workers or participate in events held by the company. The best thing you can do is to participate and get involved. Keep your mind active, and your attention geared toward the positive. Use your break to vent. Try writing in a journal during your 30-minute or 15-minute break to keep your emotions in check, so you don’t feel the need to mix your personal life with your professional life. Maybe use your commute to work as your time to think about everything, so you avoid bringing your personal life into the workplace. Promise yourself to leave your feelings at the door, meaning as soon as you walk in, your thoughts automatically convert to business.

Balancing Your Children and the Rest of Your Life

Once you go through the process of separation, you’ll need to learn to get your life back on track along with learning to deal with your professional and personal life with your children who need you more than ever right now. Firstly, schedule dinner time every night for you to sit down as a family and stay connected. You’ll feel better and so will your children. The next order of business you need to consider is that you may be responsible for more now that you have the kids by yourself for at least a few days

Fortunately, 2houses has a calendar to keep everything from your children’s life to your private and professional life in order. 2houses also has an info bank section that allows you and your ex to create an address book and a list of medical information online for both of you to be able to view and edit, making it easier for you to juggle everything. You’re able to share documents as well. 

With so much going on, you might feel a bit overwhelmed. Everything will get back to order in due time. Most importantly, by take time out for yourself and using 2houses, you’ll have the ability to maintain balance. So do not hesitate to check it now, it’s free!

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